Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Love and Marriage, Goes Together Like a Horse and Frequent Flyer Mile?

A few interesting stories emerged recently about the state of marriage. The first comes from an informative interview on Salon.com with Susan Squire, author of I Don't: A Contrarian History of Marriage. The author discusses the 5,000 year history of the practice and it's prospects for the future. She reveals that the modern marital expectations of romance, sustained sexual heat and partner equality is a new notion in the long history of the practice, really only about 300 years in the making, with a turbo boost since the 1970s, and still emerging and changing. The author urges couples to take the "long view" to remove the pressure. Perhaps the same could be said of parenting?

Also, one of the more interesting manifestations of the current economic conditions is the effect that it has had on marriages. There have always been long distance relationships, but long distance marriages were less common. Now, as the job market changes, it is not always a simple matter of picking up the family and relocating. Now, it may take a while to sell your house, or one might want to minimize the disruptions in their children's lives, and thus long distance marriages are on the rise. While this may seem to be a ticket to divorce court, on the contrary, many couples are finding that it has strengthened their unions.

Love and co-habitation, perhaps you can have one without the other!

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